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High Holidays (Tishrai) Recap

Dear friends, greetings from Jerusalem !

There is a saying in Hebrew, a kind of a blessing if you will, that is frequently exchanged right before the period of the High Holidays: “May the old year and its curses come to an end and may the New Year which is upon us be filled with blessings.”

Since the year 5771 has begun, I would prefer to focus on its accompanying blessings, the ones which we have been privileged to share with others, the ones which have come into being because of you, our generous supporters.

With prayer playing a serious role in the celebration of Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, it was fitting that we funded the distribution of close to 1800 Tehilim (book of Psalms) to our soldiers on active duty and will continue this drive throughout the year. The Psalms were authored by King David and reflect the various precarious situations he found himself in, his heartfelt pleas to G-d for Divine protection and intervention, and his gratitude for G-d’s benevolence. These verses have been recited throughout the ages and we continue the tradition today – thank you!

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Combat Tehillim

The seriousness of the High Holidays quickly transitions into the joy of the holiday of Suckot – The Tabernacles. While this is a time for families to gather together in their temporary hut-like dwellings, some of our soldiers who get out on leave return to destitute families. Some of these individuals choose to remain on their bases rather than go home and thereby put an additional burden on their family as they represent one more mouth to feed. One of our donors earmarked a contribution which enabled some soldiers in this situation to truly enjoy the festival and others to go home to a full refrigerator, thereby bringing joy to the whole family – thank you!

And while it is wonderful that so many of our chayalim on active duty do in fact get some time off during this holiday, there are so many more who remain on patrol, engage in necessary military operations, collect intelligence and in general protect all of us. While suckot are erected in most army bases, those stationed at checkpoints or in far flung outposts have no access to these temporary booths which serve to remind us of our sojourn through the desert en-route to freedom in ancient times and G-d’s protection of us under the Clouds of Glory in the burning desert sun. What does one do in this situation? Well of course, we bring the suckah to them! The army brought the mobile Suckah, the four species which are traditionally used on this holiday, music, holiday joy and lots of treats to thousands of soldiers in the country’s outskirts. They may not have been mom’s homemade chocolate chip cookies, but the special treats you funded brought even larger smiles to our soldiers’ faces – thank you!

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IDF soldiers & the mobile Suckah

While our special holiday projects addressed so many different aspects of and individuals serving in the IDF, there is one more group which goes largely unnoticed – the Lone Soldier. These are young men and women who have chosen to serve in the army without the support of their family. Many come from overseas with a large contingency from the USA. Some come from troubled families and cannot return home for a wide variety of reasons. The Lone Soldiers were also included in holiday celebrations when Yoni Broth, a bar mitzvah boy from the States decided to share his simcha with them. The family hosted a beautiful Simcaht Beit Hashoeva (festive celebration in the Suckah) to mark his coming of age and to share their joy with this under recognized population.

Thirty lone soldiers joined Yoni and his family in Jerusalem for a Saturday night of good food, high spirits, and camaraderie. While the night was memorable for all, this is a program that will continue to inspire as the family has generously sponsored a lone soldier to return stateside for a family visit and share his personal experiences with Yoni’s community – thank you!

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Together, we are making a difference on an individual, familial, communal and global level. Many of these programs are outgrowths of your ideas and sincere desire to get involved. As a small organization, we have the freedom to tailor make projects, create new initiatives and make real connections. Please visit our website,www.connectionsisrael.com, or our simcha site www.shareyoursimcha.org and join us! As you can see, with the support of our donors which include individuals, schools, synagogues, organizations and businesses, we have been able to do so much, for so many, in such a short period of time and we are happy to tell all of you – thank you!


Summer 2010 Recap – We’ve Been Busy…

For everything there is a time… (Ecclesiastes) Most people, if asked, would tell you that summer is a time for vacationing, taking it easy, slowing down and relaxing. Well, at Connections Israel, in addition to being a time for reflecting and planning for the upcoming year, it is a time for celebrating, dedicating, experiencing and connecting!

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Dear friends,
Summer 2010 began with the group bar mitzvah celebration for the neediest of youth in the city of Sderot – a city that continues to endure kassam rocket fire, sometimes falling into open areas and other times striking at the heart of activity such as the child treatment room in Sapir college. In every case, they leave a trail of traumatized citizens in their path. Our group bar mitzvah program is the culmination of months of preparation with the individual participants and their families. It takes time for children to learn to trust adults when they live with domestic violence, under the poverty line and with a host of other family issues in addition to the ongoing external threat of attack. But after the religious morning ceremonies where candies were generously tossed to wish these young men a sweet life, all the sadness was at least momentarily forgotten as these young men were danced into the social hall accompanied by the sounds of the shofar; sparklers were ignited as each boy lit a candle on the cake and said a few words; mazel tov greetings were shared and the city representatives addressed the group with words of encouragement and best wishes. Each child received a special gift in addition to a siddur, tefillin, new clothes for the affair and more. For details, please click on the following link .


An unforgettable double Bar Mitzvah

There are many ways to celebrate a bar mitzvah. One of the cornerstones of becoming a member of the adult Jewish community means taking responsibility for ones actions and actively reaching out to help others through selfless acts of giving (chessed) and social action types of activities.

On June 30th the Weiner twins chose to share their bar mitzvah with soldiers on active duty.

They went out to a base in the Shomron where they toured the communications room and were treated to an in depth explanation of various pieces of equipment – from night vision goggles to sniper guns, the children (and their parents) got a hands on introduction to the paraphernalia of combat. After being outfitted with helmets, the boys were then strapped into an army jeep to go on patrol with the soldiers – nothing like getting up close and personal! The base commander made a special appearance to personally congratulate these young men and the family and soldiers then went inside for a festive bar mitzvah meal. A resident of the neighboring community who often studies with the soldiers on base came to share some torah thoughts about responsibility with the boys and the chayalim, and the evening ended with shouts of mazel tov and a round of singing and dancing. In addition to treating the soldiers to a delicious meal on a weekday night, the family donated a major gift of the commander’s choosing to the soldiers’ clubhouse.

Memories of this evening are clearly etched in all of the celebrants’ minds – children, parents and soldiers alike, for this was clearly a situation of “All of Israel is responsible one for the other,” the children had an experience of a lifetime with hands on education and the chayalim knew in very concrete terms that Jews from thousands of miles away care about them and consider their fates intertwined.

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Library dedication on an IDF base

The IDF plays a major role in the life of the Jewish People around the world. But for one woman, Edyth Geliebter, the men and women of the armed services were more than just anonymous soldiers; they were family, and therefore permanently etched into her heart. When this spry grandmother passed away, her son was determined to find an appropriate way to eternalize her memory, and so a library was dedicated in her name on another army base.

During his trip to Israel this summer, Edyth’s son Joel put up a monument at her gravesite one day and traveled to base another for morning prayer services. This singular American civilian was surrounded by men in uniform as together they formed a quorum and prayed, with Joel reciting the traditional kaddish in memory of his mother. As the different parts of the Jewish community came together in this moment, the library was dedicated and simple refreshments were enjoyed by all. May her memory serve as a blessing to the men and women serving in the IDF, her family and all of the Jewish People.

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Joel Geliebter and family

“Hands On” in Sderot

Connections take various forms and contexts, and Connections Israel is committed to identifying and designing just the right medium for a meaningful connection to take place. While we often take large and small groups down to Sderot to meet with some of the special people who live there, see the kassams that have been fired into greater Israel, view the proximity of Gaza from a local vantage point and learn about the unique aspects of life in one of Israel’s earliest cities, this summer we did a little bit more – we gave something back!

A group of about 40 university students from the UK joined a group of Sderot teen leaders and spent an afternoon repainting a community center. As the bright green walls faded into a clean new beige, the two groups of volunteers slowly merged into one work force as they painted side by side and exchanged jokes, personal stories, music and more. The Sderot teen leaders, a group Connections Israel supports and encourages for the outstanding work that they do, served as the university students’ guides through the city and they all enjoyed a brief visit to the reinforced play area where they climbed and acted like the kids they really are!

Three generations Bat Mitzvah trip to Sderot

Although the summer began with a group bar mitzvah celebration, it ended with a special bat mitzvah connection. Orli Silverberg, a bat mitzvah child from Canada, was searching for a cause as she began to contemplate doing something meaningful for her bat mitzvah celebration. It was important to her to connect her friends and family back home with her celebration which would be taking place in Israel. A young lady with many talents, Orli and her family organized a fundraising violin recital in their community, the proceeds of which would go towards enabling the underprivileged bat mitzvah girls of Sderot to also know the joy of celebrating their coming of age. Kol hakavod to Orli and her family for raising $1000 and thereby funding the entire bat mitzvah Jerusalem Experience for one Sderot young lady. For details on this program see the following link: http://connectionsisrael.com/educational-programs/share-your-bat-mitzvah-celebration

The Silverbergs, however, truly understand the value of experiential learning, and so, during the family’s trip during the family’s trip to Israel, three generations of this family travelled to Sderot to meet with a very special Sderot family who also celebrated a bat mitzvah this past year. The bat mitzvah girls and their siblings became fast friends while climbing the indoor rock climbing wall in Sderot and the younger children played on the other equipment. In the process, Orli learned what it meant to live in a community under fire where playground safety means playing indoors. The two families toured the city together, received a briefing from a representative of the municipality with a most emotional power point presentation about the harsh realities of life in Sderot and ended their day over a festive dinner. New friendships were forged; new understandings were internalized; a sense of mutual commitment was realized and as a result Am Yisrael was strengthened.

We invite you, our readers, to consider how your lives can be enriched and how you can make a difference in the lives of others by connecting. We encourage you to share your thoughts with us so that together we can make it happen!

If you are interested in our projected 2010-2011 programs please contact us.

To ensure that we continue to deliver these kinds of services, please consider making a donation.

Wishing you a wonderful and meaningful new year.

The Connections Israel Staff
Mordechai Cohen, Adi Friedman, Sharon Spira, Hillel Levin, Hanoch Young


Sderot Group bar mitzvah summer 2010

Different boys from different parts of the community; different cultures from different parts of the world; different journeys, all with a common destination – joining the adult Jewish community. Welcome to the Sderot group bar mitzvah celebration of 2010!

Now in its eleventh year, the annual Sderot group bar mitzvah project enables the neediest members of the community to celebrate this milestone in a Jewish family’s life with dignity and meaning. This city, situated just over a one hour drive from Jerusalem has been devastated from years of aggressive terrorist activity from Gaza.

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The process begins months in advance with the local department of social services recommending the neediest of families for this special program. The social worker meets individually with each boy and his family and later with all the participants in this project as a group, for while these families have each begun the journey independently, they will now embark on a common experience – membership in the adult Jewish community. A rabbi from the religious council works with each individual to prepare him for the significance of reaching the age of bar mitzvah, teaches him about the beauty of our heritage, and instructs the bar mitzvah boy on the mitzvah of tefillin. The process culminates in the morning services when each the young men don tefillin and are called up to the torah for a special blessing. Each one is received with shouts of mazel tov, tears of joy by the family and friends who have gathered, and a showering of taffies wishing them a sweet life ahead.

For some participants, this is the first heartfelt joy the family has experienced in years. For all of them it is the first time they have successfully integrated into a larger group and been accepted for who they are. Imagine how it must feel to be a part of this celebration as you read about some of their stories below.

N. is one of two children living with his mother in a single parent family unit. He and his brother were visiting with their “Big Brother” a few years ago when a Kassam rocket landed in the “Big Brother’s” front yard – just inches away from where the boys were playing. While thank G-d the children emerged without physical injury, the same cannot be said for their spirit and psychological health. Both boys required hospitalization due to the trauma. One of the boys suffered from such severe PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) that he was unable to return to school for an entire year. Needless to say, N. is not a typical bar mitzvah boy and will carry these scars along for life.

D. has also grown up in a single parent family, devoid of a father figure. His own father has been serving a jail sentence for murder ever since D. can remember. Growing up in poverty with the additional stigma of having a murderer for a father has placed a heavy burden on this child. Being accepted and knowing exactly what is considered appropriate behavior are just a few of D.’s challenges.

A. is also the product of a single parent family. In his case, it is the loving and nurturing embrace of a mother that is missing, as his own mother passed away approximately five years ago when he was but eight years old. While A.’s father has insisted on raising him, a local family has also become an “adoptive family” for A. and his father. While this has helped, in some ways it has also highlighted the very things A. misses the most. He also has two brothers, all of whom compete for their father’s time, attention and love. Recently, A.’s father has fathered a daughter with his girlfriend, further complicating A.’s already dysfunctional life.

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And this is just a sampling of the boys who participated in this project. Now imagine these young men, all dressed in new white shirts and slacks, escorted into a beautifully decorated social hall to the blasts of a shofar and the beating of drums – a true royal escort! Their family and friends beaming with pride eagerly joined the festivities as the music played.

Words of welcome and blessing and encouragement were offered by Rabbi Oren Milka, head of the local religious council while Mazal acknowledged the unique qualities of each bar mitzvah boy. The local police sent representatives, an important statement where the police play such pivotal roles in one’s life. Of course the various volunteers who spent hours organizing and decorating the space were warmly thanked as well. Adi Friedman, the director of Connections Israel reminded all assembled that while the celebration was taking place in Sderot, it was in fact a celebration for countless individuals, schools and synagogues from the United States who identify with the plight of this community.

Each boy expressed a bar mitzvah thought as he lit the candle and sparkler on his centerpiece: prayers for the safe return of Gilad Shalit; words of gratitude for those who made this dream a reality; wishes for peace in our land and much more. May their hopes and prayers be heard and fulfilled and may we continue to celebrate bar and bat mitzvahs as a global communal family.

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Protecting the Protectors

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Study sessions that enhance Jewish identity, integrate soldiers from different backgrounds, and foster a sense of Jewish pride

The Jewish People is rich with customs and traditions that cover every aspect of life. Having begun as a tribal family from the descendants of Jacob, we feel a filial responsibility toward every other member of our “extended family.” So, just as the young men and women serving in the IDF protect Jews the world over, so too we support them in a myriad of ways.

One such effort is our program “Protecting the Protectors.” While the IDF offers us physical protection, we provide an element of spiritual enrichment which ultimately serves as an added element of protection from above.

Although one can sponsor a study session for any reason, one common practice is to dedicate a shiur in memory of a deceased loved one the occasion of their yarztheit (the anniversary date of death). Our rabbis have taught that once a person leaves this world, their soul lives on and can be elevated by the deeds of their descendants. Sponsoring a learning session on a yartzheit or in time for the recitation of the Yizkor prayer on the holidays, serves as an elevation for the soul, while providing our soldiers with a different form of group integration and Divine protection.

A $50 donation will enable us to arrange for a rabbi/educator to go out to an army base to deliver a study session to a group of soldiers. When such a class is dedicated in memory of an individual, the teacher will share some information with those present about the person, recite kaddish in their name and organize a small memorial in their honor. Of course, refreshments are also served.

More expanded opportunities for a monthly series, dedicating a library and the like are also available. For more information on this project, please contact us.

To read a little about the recent Jewish identity building shiurim, please see below.


Shiurim dedicated during the month of Iyar:

Adina Margalit – 6th of Iyar (April 20, 2010) – A shiur was given to unit 890, a division of the paratroopers. Rav Ram Cohen delivered the session to 18 soldiers on the topic of “ Halachic issues relating to interpersonal behavior .” Following the learning, a memorial was held and the kaddish prayer was recited. Refreshments were enjoyed by all of the participants.

May her memory be for a blessing

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Nechama bat Binyamin Elimelech ha’Cohen – 10th of Iyar (April 24, 2010) – A shiur was given to Chativat Menashe where 30 chayalim gathered. The learning was guided by Rav Sod Shacha on the topic of “The laws of Shabbat .” As is customary, a memorial was conducted, the kaddish was recited and refreshments were served.

May her memory be for a blessing

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Betzalel Shlomo ben Yosef Simcha – 19th of Iyar (May 3, 2010) – A shiur was presented to the members of unit 817 – a special forces unit of Duvdevan. Rav Ramo Geliebstein delivered the shiur and 42 soldiers participated in the study session. The rav spoke on the book “ Pele Yoetz,” a mussar type text dealing with moral behavior. This is most appropriate for these special young men who bring a unique spirit of fighter and gentleman to the most elite of army units. In retrospect, it seemed quite fitting that this shiur was dedicated to the memory of a 24 year old(the number in reverse of those who attended)who was described as “ a gentle soul, a man of great faith who loved to learn.” Kaddish was recited and refreshments were served.

May his memory be for a blessing

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Join us – Sderot Bar Mitzvah Boys Summer 2010

Share a Simcha has been designed to benefit both your child and the needy children of Sderot. By partnering with the bar and bat mitzvah community of Sderot, you can enable a group bar/bat mitzvah celebration to be celebrated. You can create joyous memories of this important occasion and break the cycle of depression. You can assist the struggling families in acquiring the same ritual objects your children will be receiving. Nothing solidifies Jewish identity like Jewish action! Begin your child’s Jewish adulthood with a Jewish act and Share a Simcha today!

A sponsored child will receive 2 months of personal weekly training, a brand new set of Teffilin, Talit and a Siddur.

On the special day a new wardrobe will be given (shoes, pants /skirt, shirt) and a group ceremony will take place in the morning.

Later that day, family and friends will attend the festive celebration with food, music, a photographer and more.

Contribute some of your child’s bar/bat mitzvah gift money, or make a donation in his/her honor for this very important program.

Full package for one child: $1800 (includes Teffilin, Tallit, Siddur, new clothes and a festive meal for family & friends)

Festive celebration for family and friends: $700
Teffilin: $ 500
2 months of lessons: $300
Set of clothes and shoes: $250
Tallit: $ 50
Siddur: $ 18

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Sderot municipality bar mitzvah project letter

Read the kids Bio and personal stories

Click to read about our 2009 Bar Mitzvah Celebration


We’re ecstatic to announce … ShareYourSimcha.org

Dear Parents & Educators, greetings from Jerusalem !

Connections Israel is proud to announces the premier of our new site.This unique project helps others share & partner their celebration with less fortunate ones in Israel.

Add a Chessed element to your Simcha !

Visit http://www.shareyoursimcha.org and share a part of your special event with others in Israel.

Sincerely,
Adi Friedman
Managing Director
Connections Israel

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Jerusalem Mayor Nir Barkat thanks Team Connections for their efforts for Sderot

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Jerusalem Mayor and Connections Israel's Managing Director

 

 

With the warm endorsement of Jerusalem Mayor Nir Barkat ,and a long time marathon participant, team Connections got ready for the race.

21 runners prepared for a few months while raising awareness and funds for the Sderot Bar Mitzvah Project headed by Connections Israel.

Over half the funds needed were raised for the 15 young men, picked by the Department of Social services, who will celebrate their Bat Mitzvah in 2 months in Sderot.

Connections Israel has committed to making this event happen. Every Jewish child is entitled to experience the joy associated with joining the adult Jewish community, and these children, need a positive experience! Potentially, this single joyous occasion will serve as a link for these children to their Jewish identity for the rest of their lives.

We’d like to thank all the runners and sponsors and urge you to become more involved in this wonderful project

For more information about the project click here.

Wishing you a wonderful Passover !

Sincerely,

Adi Friedman

Managing Director

Connections Israel

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Purim 2010 – Mishloach Manot to Chayalim – A Personal Story – Sharon Spira

Dear friends, greetings from Jerusalem !

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Two trucks went out laden with mishloach manot to chayalim. This year I had the privilege of accompanying the truck that covered the Benyamin Regional Council area and the Shomron. Rav Lior Barnea, who led the way, explained how with recent developments, 10% of the defense forces were removed from this area (approximately 1000 troops). Many roadblocks have also been removed and there are new realities on the ground.

On the one hand, with contiguous areas for Arabs, their businesses are booming and life is good. This does serve as a deterrent because they do not wish to return to greater limitations. On the other hand, the local Jewish populations are quite concerned as travel for them has become potentially more dangerous and as soon as they step out of their home communities they find themselves in hostile territories.

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We visited the Duchifat unit in Kochav Ya’akov and Ofra. After distributing our own mishloach manot to the chayalim, we watched as they loaded their guitars and goodies into trucks enroute to the local hospital to share the joy of Purim with other Jews in less fortunate situations. I can only imagine the strength that patients take from seeing these young men come to entertain them in uniform. Mi k’amcha Yisrael – a nation of priests and holy Jews – children who emulate their Father in Heaven who visited Avraham as he was healing from his brit milah. It is these acts of personal connection – your fundraising activities, personal greetings and feeling of connections to our troops on the fronts, our role as your emissaries distributing your good wishes and baskets of goodies, and the soldiers who take strength from these acts of loving kindness and in turn continue the chessed by giving strength to others in need. This is truly a cycle of chessed that brings strength, glory and simcha to man and to G-d!

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From here we continued to Har Bracha and Mitzpeh Yishai where we visited the Nachshon unit, the Homefront Command unit and tanks and artillery. Mind you, we were a three minute drive away from Shechem – a hotbed of terrorist activity. The major checkpoint which used to be at the intersection there and prevented countless terror attacks has been removed. There remain a few chayalim in this place whose sole responsibility is to make sure that no Jews accidentally take a wrong turn and end up in Shechem.

From here it was on to Yakir where there were additional units from the Homefront Command including those responsible for lookouts, building, search and rescue from the Shachar unit. Here we met a former student from the Milken Academy as well as a former New Jersey resident, an SAR graduate. We learned that the Homefront Command is now preparing more of its chayalim for active duty and so they are beginning to assume positions in various Shomron communities.

Our final stop was Motzav Tzofim where the Keren unit is serving along with border police and artillery units. Divided into different areas, upon hearing the music from our truck, young men and women came from every direction to receive their goodies. I cannot tell you how many times these chayalim and chayalot said how much koach they get from the pictures of young children; from the words of support, knowing in a very concrete fashion that people in far away places really care about them and value what they are doing. The day ended after davening mincha with the chayalim joining our group to dance in the spirit of simcha which defines the holiday of Purim.
Thank you for making this possible!


Sderot Group Bat Mitzvah – January 2010

In Ethics of Our Fathers 1:2 it says: The world depends on three things: On Torah, on Avodah (interpreted as prayer known in Hebrew as avodah shebalev – service of the heart) and gemilut chassadim – acts of kindness. The Sderot group bat mitzvah participants experienced each of these three elements during the course of their specially designed Jerusalem Experience.

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On Sunday January 24, 2010 a group of 31 girls from a secular school in Sderot celebrated their bat mitzvah with Connections Israel via the Jerusalem Experience. Who are these girls? They included two new immigrants, one of whom arrived from Denmark just two weeks prior to the celebration who didn’t speak a word of Hebrew. She was the first family member to ever set foot in Jerusalem! Below is a thumbnail sketch of just a few of these young ladies. Each child is a world in their own right and each case presents its own unique set of needs and challenges. But on this special day, these children were “Queen for the Day;” they were allowed to simply be children celebrating their bat mitzvah. One must never take these most basic of rights for granted.

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“T”, the oldest of three girls including a one year old baby, lost her father a month ago. He was the backbone of the family; the one who was very involved in the children’s studies and life in general, leaving a gaping hole. In order to support the family the mother has returned to work and so the paternal grandmother now attends to the children after school until the mother returns from work. Each member of the family is struggling with grief, and as the oldest child, this young lady is feeling the full weight of the situation.

“A” is one of three children from a divorced family. The stresses of Sderot manifest themselves in different ways, often resulting in the breakdown of family units. The father has cut off all contact with his family and so the mother is struggling to raise the children as a single parent. Due to emotional and financial difficulties, the family lives primarily with the grandmother, which creates an assortment of other issues.

“N” and her two brothers were forsaken by their father for another woman, leaving their mother to raise all three children on her own. They are fortunate to have a loving mother who is devoted to them, however, she has been stricken by cancer, is unable to work and is in a physically compromised situation. This family lives in utter poverty and is in no position to mark this child’s bat mitzvah. Love is what is keeping all of them going. And love is exactly what came shining through at each stop along the way for these young ladies’ journey to Jerusalem.

Traveling up from Sderot, the day began at the Kotel where the girls melded with the numerous other visitors from Israel and abroad including a significant amount of chayalim soaking in the special atmosphere of the place. After some photo ops, the girls were given their first lesson in what it means to be a member of the adult Jewish community.

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They were charged with performing their first “responsible action” by serving as representatives for individuals and some synagogue schoolchildren who are also celebrating their bar and bat mitzvahs and who had written notes for the Kotel. The idea of writing a note and conveying one’s deepest hopes, dreams, requests etc and inserting it into the Kotel was completely new to these girls, but many were so moved by the concept that they too requested papers to write their own personal prayers. And so, these young women joined all those before and all those who will come after them in not visiting but rather experiencing the Kotel.

The celebrants then visited the Chain of Generations Museum next to the Kotel. This is a relatively new museum which uses glass and real depth (one can see down to remains from the Temples) to make the point that our roots date back to Abraham and extend past us and into the future of the Jewish People. The final stop is a magical interview with Reb Yisrael who traces his personal story from the last couple of centuries to us sitting here now. It was a powerful way to sum up the kotel experience for the girls reminding them that we are a link in the chain of the Jewish People and carry responsibility and pride in both directions.

Generation 300x261 Sderot Group Bat Mitzvah   January 2010

It was now on to part two of the day – a visit to the Bible Lands Museum for lunch, a guided tour and jewelry making workshop. The girls were guided through various exhibits by an engaging young woman: In the process they were introduced to Rachel’s possible reasons for stealing the “trafim” (figures/idols of some sort that were on display) from her father’s home; the majestic and massive palace of Achashverosh from the Purim story and the courage required of Esther to even consider approaching him to save her people and much more. The final exhibit depicted ancient jewelry which helped them move into the hands on workshop where they made their own jewelry.

 Sderot Group Bat Mitzvah   January 2010

Part three of the day was meeting some of their partners from across the ocean. Gathering in the Inbal hotel, they were presented with siddurim and candlesticks, rings, earrings and necklaces, and handwritten cards by girls from other countries celebrating their bat mitzvah.

One of the participants was rendered speechless when she realized the ring was real. This is the first piece of jewelry she has ever owned!

The girls saw a brief video in which a group of bat mitzvah girls from the Yeshiva of Flatbush, one of our partners in this project, wished them a mazel tov. The Yeshiva of Flatbush representatives told us how excited their girls were to know they were connecting with and making a difference in the lives of their peers. Finally, it was time to party. The female musicians provided the atmosphere and the girls from the Yeshiva of Flatbush High School chessed mission created the spirit for a true simcha. By the end of the event, not a single girl was left outside of the circle and many had made new friends, some of whom will keep in touch.

 Sderot Group Bat Mitzvah   January 2010

According to the Sderot teachers who had accompanied the participants for the day, this was the first time they had experienced such a bat mitzvah. According to the various educators from abroad who had joined us, this was an amazing opportunity to learn about the larger Jewish community and join the adult Jewish community by taking concrete actions in making a difference in the lives of others. In all cases, it was education at its finest as it engaged all the senses and was highly interactive.

Above all else, it epitomized the idea that “Kol Yisrael areivim zeh lazeh – All of Israel is responsible one for another.” Talk has already begun on how to make this an annual event and we invite you to join us. By connecting with Connections Israel you make a difference in people’s lives and forge a connection with the Jewish People!

 Sderot Group Bat Mitzvah   January 2010

If you would like information on participating with Connections Israel on the Sderot Bar Mitzvah scheduled for Yom Haatzmaut contact us here.


Join Our Sderot Bat Mitzvah Project

The Bat Mitzvah Experience

Coming of age and joining the adult Jewish community is an event to celebrate and a moment to cherish for young women the world over.

In light of our successful Sderot bar mitzvah project, http://connectionsisrael.com/sderot-bar-mitzvah-celebration, Connections Israel has been approached by the Sderot Department of Social Services and asked to create a similarly meaningful program for the neediest of local girls.

Have your own “virtual Bat Mitzvah Experience” as you enable these young ladies to truly celebrate their Bat Mitzvah! “Travel” to Jerusalem and offer your own personal prayers and wishes at the kotel. Your notes will be inserted into the Wall by the girls who are expressing their own hopes and dreams. The girls and their mothers will tour the underground tunnels and be inspired! After visiting a few other special sites, “join” the party as our girls are hosted in Jerusalem for a celebratory party in their honor.

These girls are hand- picked by the Sderot Department of Social services based on financial, psychological and familial need. Many come from single parent families; all have in some way suffered from the ongoing kassam rocket attacks – directly/and or indirectly; the families are on public assistance and some suffer from domestic violence.

The Bat Mitzvah Experience is an opportunity to break the cycle; to introduce joy and meaning; to create bonds with local young Jewish women in leadership positions who will mentor these young ladies; to build positive Jewish identity through hands on activities and special memories. Be a part of it!

Below is the breakdown of costs per child. Click here to sponsor.

Individual and group mentoring on becoming a bat mitzvah and an adult member of the Jewish community: $150
Candlesticks and a siddur: $150
A new outfit and shoes for the bat mitzvah girl and her mother: $300
A Jerusalem experience – special visits and educational workshops: $250
Group celebration with music, dancing, and a festive meal: $150

Total cost per child: $1000

For more information and special requests contact us.